“In a world that was kinder to me then you would not exist” is a statement which makes three immediately harmful arguments when it is a statement being made about how violent it is for /bad/ lesbians to voice being exclusively attracted to people of our own sex. Firstly and primarily it posits same sex desire as unnatural, harmful to others, and a learned behavior resulting from poor (here, biogted) socialization- this is nothing but a rehashing of all the old homophobic explanations of how gay people come to exist and must be understood as such. Secondly it creates a false dichotomy between the right of trans people to exist free from harm and the right of lesbians to exist free from harm when the two are not factually necessarily as odds in any sense unless “free from harm” is interpreted as meaning free to have sex with a wider pool of women. Thirdly it asserts that, if the choice is between freely recognizing this way of experiencing sexuality- whether we call it lesbianism or some other, more stigmatizing name- and being kind (here meaning sexually available) then the proper choice must be to let this sexuality die. It asks that you sacrifice your right to speak about your authentic and healthy sexual desires, so that someone else can sleep better at night. And in fact for this reason it is not worth explaining to those most strongly pushing this rhetoric and perhaps only to those respewing it like trained animals- the point is to make sure you don’t choose yourself even when given an obviously constructed dichotomy.
theres this chinese girl in my class who isnt very fluent in english and she asked me if i have a boyfriend and i was like “i dont. i dont like. boys” and she nodded very wisely and went “ah. cooties”
sapphic-schizo 